This post was written in collaboration with TheCircle.
Valentine's Day is approaching and although we don't specifically make the effort to get out and celebrate it - we do acknowledge the the day exists and we do make an effort with one another. I suppose the day itself allows us reflection time on our relationship.
We have been married for almost five years now. In these five years we have achieved a lot. We have bought our house, brought two crazy children into the world and continued to raise all three of our girls in the best way we can. We have worked hard to get where we are and we couldn't have done it if we didn't work hard as a team.
Sometimes we are on a winning side and all is cool. I cook, he cleans up. He washes, I iron. I drop the kids off, he picks them up. The kids go to bed, we share some wine, talk the day over and go to bed. *wink wink*
Then there are the times when we are totally losing. The kids are cranky. Rosie is up in the night teething, Emily is doing her usual tween kick-off routine, or Alice has got nits and we've spent half our evening trying to sort it out. It is these evenings we hardly get a chance to talk, a chance to sit down. I might have a moan, and he'll just listen. We're tired, communication is poor and our team is beaten.
But that's what it's all about isn't it. Good relationships need time, work, effort. It doesn't come naturally to be able to run a house, work and manage everything as well as keeping up the romance. It is difficult, and it is definitely something that you have to work at as a team, as unromantic as that sounds.
The thing is, when it works - everything is right. Most days of the year we are happy, content. Busy and probably slightly frazzled, but we wouldn't have it any other way. Valentine's Day isn't really a time for us to go out and celebrate (we probably haven't got the babysitting credits for it anyway!) I suppose we try and make sure that Valentine's is a day where we reflect on our lives together, how well we work together and what a great job we are doing.
That, and to sit on the couch together til 1am, drinking wine and eating posh crisps!