Sunday, 28 September 2014

What Would You Say To Your Younger Self?

Time is  a funny thing isn't it. It flies over and with it we grow, learn and change. I sometimes think that I was a different person when I was younger - I was nothing like I am now.

Legal & General  are running a campaign asking "What would you say to your younger self?" so I thought it would be good to write what I would tell my younger self.
I wasn't a very confident child. I was always blushing and scared of what people thought of me. I found being a teenager uncomfortable and I did get picked on a bit so that didn't help. I remember just dreading going to school sometimes. I was quite shy too, which didn't help. At weekends you were more likely to find me holed away in my room reading books and listening to music rather than socialising with friends.

I did have friends in school but I suppose I had my own little circle.

The advice that I would give my younger self would be to be more confident. I know you can't make someone be confident with a magic wand - but I literally had no confidence whatsoever. I was frightened of everyone and everything. I used to dread presentations, meeting new people and even talking to people - I was so worried that I wasn't good enough in some way.

I am not sure where this all stems from really. I think maybe all it took was one person in school to laugh at me and then I just developed a complex. So you know what, I would tell my younger self that yes, you are good enough. You don't have to compare yourself to other people, and you will find your own positives in time.

Dress up, do your hair, do your make-up - not for other people but just to make yourself feel good. Make new friends, don't be afraid of branching out, trying new things.

Really, what is the worst that can happen??

I now bring my children up to be confident young girls. I tell them they can achieve anything that they put their minds to and that they don't have to be afraid.

I wish I had realised that when I was a lot younger.


  1. Great advice - wish I'd had that as a younger self too. Think I've have told myself to stop stressing about being pale, step away from the fake tan and orange foundation and bare all while I was young enough to get away with it. ;-)

    1. Ha ha yes, that's a good one. I have grown to like pale - fake tan never sat well on me :) x


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