Sunday, 20 April 2014

Two Babies Under Two

So we have two babies really close together. We didn't especially plan it that way, I mean I wasn't exactly hovering over the loo with ovulation sticks when Alice was eleven months old. Not that there would have been anything wrong with that, but Rosie was our "Happy Surprise", shall we say.

So we have the three girls. Emily aged 10. Alice aged 2, and Rosie aged 1.

OK the title of the post was a misnomer, but I'm keeping to it - and it's close enough!



A lot of people have babies close together and some have twins and triplets and more, so I'm not claiming to be the parenting expert or anything like that. But what I do have is this experience and I thought I would share. The only way I can, myself. I suppose this will just be some information to let you now that two close together is fine.



And absolutely not fine sometimes.

But that it is (mostly) all good.

It's easier than you think

When I was pregnant with Rosie and pushing Alice in the buggy, collecting Em from school, cooking the tea then doing my essays for uni and getting up for 6am to go to work the next day...it was not as hard as I thought. Then once Rosie arrived. Again, it was not as hard as I thought. These are the reasons why:

1. Everything Together

They can do everything at the same time. Double buggy, nappy changes, bathing, eating...it's all similar to having one child really. They do tag team me with nappies, and some days I can just do nothing except change them - but it's easy enough. They play together too, and I've noticed as Rosie gets bigger she really enjoys playing with Alice. They teach each other to share and it is lovely to see.

2. Clothes!

Remember that top that the eldest grew out of? Now you no longer have to bin it because the younger baby can use it. I buy clothes for Alice knowing that it is almost like 'buy one get one free' because as long as I look after the item, Rosie can use it afterwards. Sometimes I do dress them the same though - they look so cute I can't help it!

3. Interaction

Rosie is really quite advanced because she interacts with Alice all the time. She wants to be up and walking with her, and this is great to see. They also both go to nursery one day a week, and they help each other to settle by playing together. Alice has told us tales of how she has cuddled her sister and said "It's alright Rosie" when Rosie has been a bit upset.

4. Less Stress

I find it less stressful having more children. I am not as bothered about things being perfect, I will happily feed them sausage rolls now and again, and I don't really care if they get chocolate on their clothes. I'm much more relaxed, which in, turn reflects on them. The babies seem chilled out and I wouldn't say they are whinge-y babies, not generally anyway.

5. Teamwork

I find that me and Warren definitely work better as a team. Sometimes, I look at him just before bath time and say "Choose your weapon..." We dress one girl each, feed one girl each and generally try our best to stick to our routine by working together. This way once they are both asleep we can have some time together - time that is not so structured around the kids! I'll be honest, when he goes to the football at night it is hard on my own. We definitely do everything 50/50.

OK maybe he sometimes takes the lead, but still...

So, really it is easier than you would think. By no means am I saying that it is simple having the two little ones. I think the fact that we are organised and stick to a routine helps us immensely. The eldest also will play with the babies, and our parents do take them off our hands when we are at work. But for the main - we manage them well - because we are used to it. I think you forget that before babies you just get in from work and sit down...






4 comments:

  1. I definitely think you really start to reap the benefits as they get older and you have a built in playmate. One of my friends just had twins and i know it will be hard but when they are 1 or so it will be bloody fantastic. I would love to have 2 F's now as then he might stop pestering me to play cars every 5 minutes ;)

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  2. This is so cute - funny, but cute. I love the sound of how they play together and poo together ;) My oldest are two years apart and are absolutely thick as thieves. Bigger age gap than yours but now the youngest can play Star Wars it is all cool and dandy. x

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  3. WifeMumStudentBum25 April 2014 at 10:38

    They definitely are getting easier as they get older. I take my hate off to people who have quads and triplets and everything. The fact that they are cute definitely makes a difference as well, obviously! x

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  4. WifeMumStudentBum25 April 2014 at 10:38

    I love how close they are. Even the eldest is close to them, despite the age gap - they are all good mates. Most of the time, anyway! x

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