Tuesday, 8 April 2014

Getting Back Into the World of Work

This article was written by K. Watson, who is a freelance writer.

You often hear mothers saying things like “I wanted to do that… but then I had children” or “It’s alright for you, you haven’t got kids!”.

Now, it’s unlikely that these women – even for a second – regret their decisions to become a parent, but it’s undeniable that sometimes, a certain element of wishful thinking does come into play! But why does it need to be like that?
Having children should not in any way, shape or form restrict you from achieving your dreams – particularly if they are career orientated. Of course, there will be restrictions and even limits, but it is possible to be both a great mother AND a great person in your own right, if this is what you choose. The two need not be mutually exclusive.

So what’s the best way of going about this? Honestly? It’s to throw yourself back in there, and return to work. Assuming you are indeed ready to make that step towards a job search, and you don’t currently have anything secured, fortunately, there are loads of places you can look. Online job boards like Hales Group, Monster and Indeed have a range of different types of work posted, to fit in with your aspirations or to allow you to start afresh. Perhaps your maternal instincts have got the better of you, and your old job seems pretty dull now? That’s not a problem. Many people find themselves in the same situation, and want to enter into an entirely more caring position. Why not look for jobs involving looking after others, on sites like Hales Care? Perhaps you could even consider self-employment, by becoming a child-minder. It’s a great compromise, as you’ll still be earning some money, whilst looking after kids – including your own.

The issue of when to return to work (if ever) is often a divisive issue in itself. It’s not something you should allow yourself to be affected by. Whilst it’s a good idea to read up on both sides of the debate, it’s something that is a very personal decision which will by-and-large depend on your individual circumstances.

 If it has been a while since you have worked, you may worry that you won’t remember how to fit in. Relax! Research your industry for any major changes that may have taken place whilst you were out of the game. This way you’ll be up to scratch. It might be also worth a look at some fashion blogs, to get some inspiration for your back-to-work wardrobe. Don’t feel like you have to be a clone though – just make sure your clothes are clean and you’ve got yourself a starting point!

Likewise, if you’ve only been off on maternity for the minimum amount of time possible, you may worry that people may judge you for not wanting to spend as much time as possible with your little one(s). Sometimes it’s just not possible to provide for your family without the excess income, or maybe it’s just that your career that you worked so hard to build would suffer otherwise. Don’t let anyone else tell you what is right or wrong. You’ll still be able to bond with your baby – just make sure that the time you DO have with them is precious. You could discuss with your employer the possibility of a more flexible contract, allowing for part time work. Failing that, it’s important to find a great care-giver for your child whilst you’re at work, whether it’s a partner, family member, or a reputable child-minder.

Whether you’re dying to work again, or your financial situation leaves you no other choice, going back to work after having a baby doesn’t need to be daunting. And if you don’t want to go back at all? Don’t. If your situation allows it that you don’t have to, just make sure that you’re making the right decision – for you, and your family – that’s all that matters.

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