Monday, 24 March 2014

The Constant Question: How Do You Cope?

Let me ask you a question - are you a working Mother? Do you have a few kids and maybe you study or run a blog, or have other similar commitments.

Can I ask you a question?

How do YOU cope?

What do you do?

I'll not ask if you can plait your pubic hair, I already asked that in this post here.

These semi-ridiculous got-no-time posts are becoming more frequent and ironically I don't even have the time to write them.

Thoughtful road sign today on the drive into work. "Your Family Need You: Slow Down"

But what I read was:

Guilt hits me from all angles. Can you get home in time for tea? Can you do their packed lunches for tomorrow? Can you help them with their home-work?

And what's more...can you make ends meet?

Another assignment is due in. When do you read? What does your workspace look like? Are you organised? How will you get through the next 2,000 words.

Where is your next cup of coffee coming from?

Do you still have baby vomit on your top from this morning?

How big is your to-do list for work - can you keep your eyes open in this meeting?

Can you live on two hours' sleep?

Will you get caught in traffic on the way home?

What do you want for Mother's Day?

Me, I choose gin and space to have a soak in the bath. Me time? Yes please. Do you have time? How much time can I have without impeding on somebody else's?

So, how do you cope? Is there a strategic document for coping and did mine get lost in the post?

When people say to me "How do you cope?"

I smile and say "I don't know."

Because sometimes, I really don't.

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  1. I know the feeling - I really don't know how I cope, let alone you! I am just the mummy bit. I think you're amazing. We want you to stay that way. Xxx

  2. I'm panicking just reading this! I go in phases: sometimes I'm up against it with work and the blog, and keeping up with everyone online as much as I'd like to; and then I just stop, and realise that I haven't spent any decent time with my kids, and I go offline for a while. But then I feel bad for neglecting my bloggers! My one rule made recently has helped though. I'm lucky enough to be home after school most days, and I refuse to switch on my computer until after the kids have had tea. That way I know I'm spending a good 2 hours being with them, even if we're not doing much.

  3. WifeMumStudentBum27 March 2014 at 23:27

    Awww. I read this the other day but didn't get a chance to reply! Thanks for your response lovely. I am WELL back on track with my plate spinning now. I just have the odd hiccup.:) x

  4. WifeMumStudentBum27 March 2014 at 23:28

    I am never keeping up with people online as much as I'd like to. I read a lot of blogs and enjoy a lot of writing, but I usually read on the go, and have no time to comment and I hate that. I always find it great to try and make time to sit and spend time communicating with the people that make me smile, and keep me smiling and blogging along the way! x :)

  5. Wow this is the first time I have ever read something and wondered if you were in my mind! I'm trying to write my dissertation as well as complete my final year of Uni with a 2 year old and a husband who works away.

    I always get the question "wow how do you do it?" And if I'm honest I don't know, I find it so hard especially when no one else on my course is in the same situation.

  6. WifeMumStudentBum28 March 2014 at 23:28

    All power to you. You have probably already realised by now that if you set your mind to it, then you can do it. It's hard and sometimes I have a assive moan about it on here, but I wouldn't have it any other way. What are you studying? All the best to you and yours :)

  7. it is harder this time round, especially being a mummie now. but i wouldn't change it for anything. to me it seems that going back to university later on i have a different perspective, my work ethic has changed i work harder and i seem to get better grades than that of the 'young ones' who choose to leave to the last minute and go out all night.
    i am studying forensics. my university is an hour away, but the course has been amazing! and i am so extremely grateful there is a nursery on site (even though it is very expensive) but I'm crazy as I'm thinking of doing a masters after this.. maybe going into medicine (thats if plan for baby no 2 doesn't happen - as daughter was a miracle) what are you studying? do you have long left?

  8. WifeMumStudentBum2 April 2014 at 12:44

    I bet forensics is interesting. Probably too complicated for me! I'm doing history and plan to do a Masters next year - I grauate next summer. You can do anything if you put your mind to it study-wise - even if baby number 2 makes an appearance :) All the best to you xxx


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