Thursday, 28 November 2013

No PORN please, we're BRITISH...

So, under new rules, the conservative government (and I say conservative, let's face it, there is not a hint of liberal influence to it, is there really...) in their infinite wisdom are due to unveil a sort of blackout on Internet pornography. Under the new rules, no household in the UK will be able to access pornography from any Internet-using machines UNLESS they call their Internet provider to opt in.

"Hello, I would like to subscribe to the opt-in service for hardcore pornography, thanks"

Ridiculous. Why is this happening?



Children

Now the supposed aim of this policy is to protect our children from pornography. I agree with this. I think that exposure to pornography at a young impressionable age is wrong and could cause many conflicting and confusing emotions in children. Just the other day I was sat at computer and I clicked an absolutely normal link, no hanky panky title or anything and BAM there was a vagina in my face. Luckily, my children were playing with their toys on the rug - so they didn't see. I would not like them to see that, or have to explain why that was there.
However, if I don't give them access to the Internet without my supervision then it is unlikely that they will come across any nasties. Add to that Google safe search switched on and our parental controls, and I am fairly certain that the eldest will not be viewing anything that might be confusing, upsetting or strange to her.
At the same time as this, I accept that my children are definitely going to view porn at some point in their lives, either by accident or by choice. If it's the latter, that's up to them, the former...then we'll have a conversation. I think I am Mum enough to brave the porn conversation with my kids. It's life, and in this age of the speedy super Internet information highway, I think education and informing them is the way forward. Not censorship. The world can be a dangerous and horrible place, it always has been. Only now with the rise of the Internet and media there is nowhere for the nasties to hide - we can't wrap our children up away from it - we need to educate them about it.

Is it the Sexy-Time?

Are we still embarrassed of sex? Are we still maintaining the apologetic stiff upper lip that the Brits have perfected over the years? Is this holier than thou facade influenced by our Christian background? Surely the Church that has refused women's rights to be Bishop still doesn't have influence over whether one can bash one? Do we not talk about sex? Is sex still a social taboo? Is it the nudity? I can't answer all these questions...I'm just asking them.

Pornography

Is it because of the often exploitative nature of pornography? Are we thrashing out (excuse the pun) equal pay opportunities, pensions and better working conditions? Is this a crusade for the equal treatment of women, feminism and sexual equality in one fell swoop? I'm all in for ethical porn - but somehow I don't think it is about that.
 

Have the Conversation

So Mr Cameron wants us to have the porn conversation with our other halves. He wants us to sit down and discuss whether or not we should let pornography into our lives. Or is it whether we should let it back in. If we don't want to have the conversation then surely we can just switch on MTV. Not actual pornography, but man it is close. That fella who raps in the 'summer smash' blurred lines sings that he is going to give me 'something big enough to tear my ass in two.' Charming. I can still access that, as well as the bouncing boobies all over the screen.
As it is, we have had the porn conversation. And we have decided that yes we will be opting in. Do we watch pornography? On a scale of 1 - 10, 10 being porn-lovers, I'd go with a 2.  Do we have time to watch porn? No.

Do we want the choice?

YES.

So, we will be turning on the porn.

Have you had the porn conversation? How did it go...do let me know I'd love to hear...





10 comments:

  1. We will be opting in should I change providers (I believe I'm still in should I remain with my current ISP).

    It has F all to do with porn and all to do with censorship.

    Sexual health, lingerie, advice... There's no way of filters being turned on (arf) without affecting search criteria results. Its ludicrous.

    "Dave" watered down his vision. I think he's knows its lip service. People don't want a nanny state, they want to be treated like adults.

    The real issue seems to be tech moving faster than than the parents, grand parents being able to keep up.

    I'm a nerd, I'm 41, I know stuff, my kids are safe unless their friends have a mobile device to hand.

    But my neighbour may be 35, useless with a PC...

    But both our kids will view computers as intuitive, simple, info resource.

    I think that generational gap is the real reason behind this and I suspect the govt realise this.

    The porn conversation... We don't need it.

    I'm aghast at some mtv promos aimed at 9 yr olds objectifying women for them to mimic the dance/song, equally the daft vagisil soap "as vaginas smell", or wear this perfume "as you stink and men may like you more"

    That there, the TV, is more harmful... Celebs ffs...

    Internet is a research tool primarily. Keep it that way, it should be a global resource.

    If I want to see images of women's bottoms I will watch MTV, children in need, a soap, celeb out of here or even big brother.

    Its a joke proposal.

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  2. There's always a way around censorship. And even if they are stopping online porn, someone will find a way to secretly distribute it for free anyway. If you look at some porn stars and producers, they love their lives, they don't think it's degrading and it's the body in natural form. I did censorship for my dissertation and some people don't regard them as rules, more of guidelines so they still distribute and if they get closed they find another way and another way. xx

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  3. Giggles you said sex......I have sky, do I have to opt in? :)
    By the way I ran out of Mint Matchsticks by accident whilst reading this so you owe me one box.

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  4. A great post. I'm sure it'll really get people thinking about their choices being taken away. Nanny state?...

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  5. I do hope my kids don't encounter too much as they explore the Internet more, porn has its place and I used to watch it - not any more as a) would worry kids might see it b) unfair to the enforced celibate!

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  6. Ooh I didn't know about the conversation with the OH. We mostly just laugh at it when it comes on. I think even with the clampdowns people will find a way. The vastness of the Internet will mean it can never really be controlled.

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  7. Even without porn, alot of movies and like you said even music videos are so sexually focused now too (don't know if anyone recently caught Don Jon!) it wont make much difference!

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  8. Elizabeth Townson30 November 2013 at 19:10

    It's really stupid isn't it? There's some right silly stuff coming out of this government. I wish they'd bog off.

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  9. Susan Styles You1 December 2013 at 12:12

    How ridiculous!

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  10. I think this is absolutely ridiculous. How much else do they want to control for us?!? Great post though! x

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